Here is
to you my lovely friend! You're a single mum of two years old twins. I know
what clicks in your mind "Terrible Two's"? Correct. It was Five days
to Christmas, you got down with some nasty viral infection and the next day,
your little twinnies caught your germs! You live by yourself. You haven't got
any family in this country. And more over, who-so-ever can be a help to you are
also down with some flu/cold. You called me (Ha! your last hope) on 20th
December 2016 and here it goes....
Phone rings...
It's 21:11 and I am about to have my dinner.
Me: Hi! How are
you?
My friend: Hi, Not
well. I'm down with a very high temperature and cold and it's all so annoying!
I hate being ill and weak. More over, my kids are not happy as their mummy's sick
and been in the bed most of the day. I never felt so helpless before. She
continued grumbling and I carry on listening. She was sounding really exhausted
and drained due to her poorly sick body.
Four days to
Christmas, I woke up and read her text, Sorry about complaining last
night. I love my children more than anything in this world. They both have
caught my germs & woke up with fever. All I want is a big hug and honestly,
6 Pint of full fat cow's milk, pack of wholemeal bread, a pack of loo rolls and
a box of facial tissues as we are running out of it. I afraid, I won't be able
to pop to the local shops with them. Can you help me please?
(PS: we all got
bad cold and constantly sneezing! Atchhoooo....)
I packed the stuff
for her, took my car out, stopped by at a local shop to get milk/bread and
drove to hers. I was feeling so proud that she asked me to help her. I have
seen so many times, people are struggling and being so hard on themselves that they DON'T ask for help when they should do. I believe we live in a world where
asking for help should be more appreciative rather than feeling guilty about
it. Today you're in need, tomorrow I may be in some need too. I was glad, she
did!
Half an hour drive
to hers and Doorbell rings!
Hugs!!!!! She gets
all she needed. Totally! During the tough time, all we need is someone standing
by our side. And when it's all overwhelming then a shoulder to lean on. She
made the choice to ASK FOR HELP. Even though she had two sleepless nights, I saw the sparkle on her face
that morning.
Being sick is so
common part of everyone's life and it is the most frustrating thing for someone
who is a single parent of either multiples or physically/mentally challenged
children. It feels like you've been injured by your enemies from all the
angles, lost all your weapons to protect yourself and your little kingdom.
However, some kind of invisible force is leading you and motivating you each
second to stand up and get back on the battlefield. It's all about your little kingdom, where your soul resides! And although you're drained, super
exhausted and at the edge of loosing all, you take that one last deep breath
and make it all happen. One more time, you, SP, make that happen. Each time you
have this incredible experience of struggling and juggling, you become more
confident and self-reliant. It's truly tremendous and amazing, each time I
think of a small situation and how it hugely impacts on a SP's life. I get to
learn a lot from SPs, each time I come across a SP, I get to know myself much
better and clearer. I get to identify my human super powers and all the
extraordinary capabilities I have!
In the end, my
friend taught me, "Every time I come across a tough situation in my life,
I think of those, whose problems are much bigger and even more complicated than
mine! Next? I don't see any problem in my situation. Life is bigger than a
situation. So I do cry and moan but it can't stay with me forever. I choose to
be positive about everything come across in my life. I am not just an ordinary
fighter, I am flipping warrior! My life is a battlefield and I am my own army.
This killer attitude is the only secret weapon I wear. I love my little kingdom
till the last breath of my life and at the end of the day they're the force
which is leading and inspiring me."
I will also leave
you with this beautiful thought and look forward to write many more inspiring
chapters in 2017.
Merry Christmas
and a Happy New Year to all of my readers/followers.
Love you all,
Single mum is on
fire XX